10 Brilliant Ways To Overcome Self Doubt and Finally Become The Person You’ve Always Wanted

One of my favorite quotes about self doubt is, ” Doubt Kills More Dreams Than Failure Ever Will ” By Suzy Kassem. Self doubt is real. It’s that little voice in your head telling you, “You can’t do it” or that “You’re not good enough.”

I’ve heard that same little voice over and over throughout my life. Even when I started this blog. I was terrified to throw myself out there. That little voice kept telling me, “Nobody is going to read your posts,” and “You can’t do it.” But guess what? I did it. I proved that little voice wrong and, guess what? So can you.

You might ask yourself, so what can I do about it? Well, first off you need to learn to change your way of thinking.I know that seems hard to do, especially when that inner voice seems stronger than anything else. I am going to say this a lot in this post. This takes practice and time. Also, you need to find the will to put in the hard work, but YOU can do it. Having self doubt is a part of being human and it can completely paralyze you to the point of moving forward and feeling stuck. Self doubt is a protection mechanism that the body enters to shield itself from harm, fear and failure.

Before we delve in deeper, please know and trust that this is a process and it will take time. First you need to realize where the self doubt is coming from. My self doubt started when I was a little girl. Things for me growing up weren’t always the best and with that, it slowly manifested into different fears as an adult.

What changed for me, was finally realizing that if I didn’t change, nobody was going to do it for me. I got tired of sitting on the sidelines watching the world pass me by. I had so many ambitions and things that I wanted to do. But how was I going to do that, sitting there in fear? I had fears of going to college as an adult. For me, I would tell myself I wasn’t smart enough, and didn’t deserve anything special in my life. But I was so wrong.

It took me until I was 40 years old to finally realize that I could do it. I graduated from college last year. I wanted to live my best life. Don’t get me wrong it took lots of work, but I did it. Now, when I start something new I ask myself what is the worst that can happen? I might get a few no’s, maybe a little criticism, but who cares!

So here are some ways to regain control back into your life, so you can tell that little voice of self doubt that is stopping you from moving forward goodbye once and for all. Once you learn how to do that. You will realize that it will get easier and easier to keep moving forward.

10 Ways to Regain Control Of Your Self Doubt

1. Don’t Let Past Experiences or Memories Define Who You Are : This goes without saying. Stop living in the past and come back to “NOW” This is so important in order for you to let go and move forward.

2. Talk to Someone Who Understands: Try talking to someone you trust. Maybe speak to a counselor or a close friend. I bet they would understand you more than you realize and I bet they have felt the same way you are feeling right now.

3. Don’t Compare Yourself  To Others : This one is HUGE! I still struggle with this one. I think this is part of being a human being. Remember this, everyone’s journey is different. Your journey is unique to you. Try to learn that you are special in your own way and your journey is all your own.

4. Connect with the People Who Care About you: This is so important. It is so easy to isolate ourselves. Especially now with Covid and self-isolating. We still need to reach out to others. There are many ways to do this. Don’t isolate yourself. Reach out and stay social. I guarantee you, they are feeling the same way.

5. Question Your Doubts– When you are having doubts, that little voice telling you, you can’t do it. Question it! Ask why it’s there? Always question your doubts. You’ll be surprised when there isn’t a good answer.

6. The Fear of Failure: Don’t let past failures define who you are. This goes back to #1. Remember failures are experiences we have to learn from. Use those failures as a growing experience. As long as you learn from them and do not repeat them, you are moving forward.

7. Write It Down and Start A Gratitude Journal I cannot stress enough how having a gratitude journal helps so much. All you need to do is write down a few of your thoughts every day and it can really have an insightful impact on how you’re feeling. Check out my article on gratitude and all the positives it can have on your life.

8. Celebrate Your Accomplishments (even the small ones) Absolutely celebrate small accomplishments. Even something as small as getting out and going for a walk can be an accomplishment. What is going on in your life right now? What is an accomplishment that you can celebrate?

9. Trust Yourself (You CAN do this) Trust yourself! When was the last time you realized that you actually trusted yourself? Do you trust yourself ? This is so important. If nothing else, this won’t work if you don’t trust yourself. Have an honest discussion with yourself. Do you trust the decisions that you are making? If you can answer yes to this then you are well on your way to begin healing.

10. Start Small Small steps. Start with one of these, and then move on to more steps once you feeling comfortable with these. The more time you work on “you” the better. Change take time.

The tips I have listed above are all the steps I took in leaving my self doubt in the dust and behind me. Let me remind you, these are all things that take time. These steps don’t just happen overnight. But if you follow some of these and truly believe in yourself you’ll be well on your way to some changes.

You may wake up one day and feel you are doing awesome and the next day feel as if you’ve taken two giant steps back. This is normal and a part of life. We all go through this. I still do. Pick yourself up and get back onto moving forward. Thank you so much for reading this and if you enjoyed it, please share or leave a comment. I would really appreciate it.